When I was a child, I remembered that I wanted to be the first female president. I remembered classmates laughing and some thought it as being 'cute' when I was serious about it. Then in high school, I had always settled down as second best. This made me wonder why I waited for more than 10 years before really owning up to the person I really wanted to be. I made myself believe that it was okay for society to project that men are the leaders, that I was only 'dreaming' no matter how capable I was. It influenced me, and as a result I feel I never pushed myself to be the best I could be.
The reality was that I let my inner demons control me, instead of taking control of them. I attended so many other motivational camps and did not realize this until I completed the Lifepath in 2014. Only then could I see how far my own limiting beliefs had hindered me from achieving the things I had always dreamt of. I had always followed what others expected of me, without reflecting upon my own limiting beliefs. But only when I become aware of my inner demons, can I achieve greater heights in life.
Why is this so, and why do I have these limiting beliefs, or as I like to call them, inner demons? Similar to a building that needs pillars to stand strong, my actions are driven by my belief system. A belief system is a framework that I use to structure my reality, to define what is within reach and what is not. My beliefs are developed over the years either consciously or subconsciously through my life experiences, the way I am educated, my surrounding environment and everyone around me; my parents, teachers, friends and so on. These beliefs can be either limiting me from reaching my full potential, or empowering me to be the best version of myself. The ultimate mission is to ensure that my empowering beliefs are stronger that my limiting beliefs.
On this blog, I'd like to share 3 STEPS which have helped me overcome my limiting beliefs:
1. FACING MY DEMONS
Most often times, I know I can achieve so much more in life, but somehow I manage to tell myself excuses, one after the other, that helps me justify why I am not pursuing my dreams. I finally settle down for something ordinary instead of fighting for what I truly believe I can achieve. I create my comfort zones and choose to stay in them as they surround me by my limiting beliefs. Stepping outside of my comfort zone, passed my limiting beliefs is risky and scary. Thus, my limiting beliefs are what is blocking me from going beyond and becoming the best version of myself. But the reality is, I owe to myself to create a meaningful life, and not being held back by myself. I started to do this by naming all my demons. I sat down in a peaceful place and listed down countless limiting beliefs. What helped me was to start my thoughts and sentences with “ I am afraid that...", "I don’t deserve to...”, “I am not...”, and so on. This exercise allowed me to see them on a tangible list. Seeing is believing. The unseen can always cause a huge fear because it is unpredictable and beyond our control. By making something visible, it becomes real. The key here is to not think too hard, but rather to listen to my feelings.
2. UNDERSTANDING OUR INNER DEMONS
After listing out my inner demons, the next step is to understand where they come from and how their roles have been affecting my life. This is because in order to face my enemies, I need to visualise and understand its tactics so that I can manage them. To understand my inner demons, I tried to simply ask "why" does this limiting beliefs exist? For example:
Once I understand why my limiting beliefs are formed, I chose the one limiting belief that affects me the most, the one which hinders me the most.
3. TAKE CONTROL OF MY LIFE
Now that I had identified my biggest inner demons, I need weapons to control them. The reality is that having limiting beliefs helps me to stay grounded, and gives me something to fight for. I cannot get rid of my inner demons because they are part of who I am. The key is to develop my ability to control them as opposed to letting them control me. Here is how I can do that:
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Off to control my inner demon and become a female President,
Business Coordinator at Leadapreneur